I’m looking for advice today, because I was uncomfortable with what happened.
DH will be 84 in another week and has autoimmune symptoms which means he has a compromised system. We have been careful not to go out any more than necessary because the medical people are warning about the flu, particularly as one ages. But what does one do when someone shows up at your house sick? And then that obligatory goodbye hug? Please tell me what you do to protect yourself.
You and Bill could wear the facial masks that Dr. and nurses do. I see them more now since flu is rampant
I would be honest and tell them that you are sorry, but right now we can’t hug because of doctor’s orders with his illness. Then make sure you sterilize anything they touched.
My first question is “why did they come to visit if they were sick”? How inconsiderate. I too would explain why you cannot give them a hug and clean thoroughly anything they touched. Wearing the mask might be a good idea too, but maybe asking THEM to put one on would send a message too.
Thank them for coming and explain you would love to give them a hug but with hubby at risk of getting anything you can’t do it. They will understand. At church more and more people are just not shaking hands or hugging due to the risk of infection even if the other person isn’t ill. It isn’t worth the risk.
Keep a supply of masks by the door. If a friend or relative visits and is sick, explain the situation and give them the option of wearing a mask or returning when they are no longer sick. Respiratory infections spread very easily. Masking up is a good option. Good handwashing technique is an excellent way to prevent the spread of infection.
I agree with all the above! Alcohol-based hand sanitizer too… My sister fought cancer (successfully) some years ago, and had similar problems. They ended up posting a note on their front door, apologizing for the fact that they couldn’t allow anyone with any kind of illness to enter their house while she was going through chemo. It’s your husband, your house, and you have every right to restrict visitors that could cause problems.